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Originally Posted by Army_of_One  The thing is now days our kids aren't "US". Kids now days are much more informed and wired to what's going on. This generation responds differently to discipline than we did. I was spanked and we had spankings at school also. (the paddle) They have removed corporal punishment from school I think. We have raised the "time out" generation. I'm an idealist (damn me for that) and probably have a lot to learn because I have a 7 month old daughter but I think it's all about parenting. I don't think spankings are necessary in most instances. I think raising a child is about setting boundries and standards and enforcing those standards. If a child does something wrong, have the time and patience to explain why it is wrong and the consequences. IF they continue to do it there HAS to be consequences. The first time you say..IF YOU DO THAT then THIS will happen and it doens't...you lose credibility and the kid will walk over you from that point on. I'm far, FAR from the perfect parent and am learning as I go but my child already knows the meaning of a FIRM "NO". (thanks to my wifey) Kids need attention and motivation. When both parents are working 8 -10 hours a day then come home tired HOW much attention is the child really getting? To many of our kids are shoved into daycares for someone else to raise then we wonder why they have issues. |
Exactly Army....when my mother and father were together I had structure and such. My brothers turned out to be mellow and stay at home, they are all so much older than me. When I was 4 or 5 my parents were getting divorced so I was not brought up in structure. My dad tried to give me structure and dicipline; however when I went to moms I was with a babysitter or my brothers. They all let me do what I wanted. I amnot say my mother was a bad mother becasue she was a really good person and would do anything for anybody. she was a very hard worker and had to pay the bills on her own when her and my dad divorced. When she met my stepdad she was always out with him or she was working. It was a mess at times but we all made it. I believe my brothers upbringing was way different than me and it shows. I was raised my three parents and they were raised by 2.