[K C Muffin]

Son and wife were just over with their little one (a year old!). They came over to tell me they were splitting up. Their story is that she just needs some space to find herself. I think that's crap. He wants to refi the house so he can keep it. She wants him to give it to her so she can keep the baby in familiar surroundings. They need money to do that. I said no.

I feel bad because after they left, I told my hubby there was no way in hell I was going to let him roll over and give her everything. Because he will - because she's already put the notion in his head that it's all his fault. Maybe he's not been there for her every time she's wanted, but emotionally, she's never been there for him. She wanted a house. Now that the housing market is down, the house is a burden. She wanted a baby. Now that he needs some care, she's not happy with the burden.

Somebody tell me it's normal for me to want to beat her over the head, take the baby and tell her to grow up.

So she's not happy. Did somebody tell her it was going to be a walk in the park? Son will do anything she asks, which means a huge financial burden for him. I don't think she knows what she's asking for. I think she thinks she will get quite a bit of child support. But what she fails to take into consideration is that he doesn't make much more than she does.

Am I OK or am I being selfish?