The X Factor

[Detector]

I noticed in the Mayor thread that an alarming number site their X's for a cause of bankruptcy. As someone fitting into this same group, don't you get the feeling there's a red flag here? Someone getting fat here In my opinion and I think its the state. Somehow forcing the non-dependent spouse into bankruptcy so that the dependent spouse can live fat just doesn't seem right.

OK I feel a little better

[lurker]

Yelp. When a gruntled wife becomes disgruntled and new credit cards flow through the mail slot on a daily basis; AND you can't get a new Social Security number to cancel-out the one you shared with HER........

YER SKREWED!

[Lone Gunman]

When I got divorced I got custody of my 2 kids. The ex was supposed to pay child support but for a long time she didn't. Raising 2 kids by myself on my income was tough, I came close to filing but I couldn't even afford to do that. We toughed it out and times were lean but I think my kids are better people for the experience. They learned that nothing comes easy and you have to work for what you get.

[Tee]

I went through the same hard time myself about 20 years ago. Living in a camper trailer, eating instant mashed potatos made with instant dry milk, for an entire week. Yuk.

It's those experiences that teach you to love life and appreciate the simple things.

[K C Muffin]

Well, my ex (husband - although I loathe that word in his instance) ran up credit cards that were issued in my name and his signature was accepted. Like you, lurker, it's hard to stop that flow of credit card offers and even harder to stop them from printing checks with your statement. They were all used. I didn't know about most of them, because the mail was already in the house and sorted when I got home. I found out about them when I started getting the bills after we split up. One card wanted an $800. minimum payment. Well, my rent was only $425 (tough neighborhood). Even with a second job, I couldn't afford even one $800 credit card with 2 growing boys in the house. There was no child support. He even hid our income tax liability from me and when he quit making the $75 a month payments on that, they froze my bank account. I found out real fast how hard they can make life. But not for him, who had changed banks. He still owned the house (which I gave him because I wanted nothing to do with the liabilities from it), still worked, but they caught up with me. And made it stick. Yeah, my life has changed for the better, now. But I had to be tough with my boys about what we could have and what we couldn't and why we couldn't eat meat even once a week. I think they remember that too and have vowed to never do that. The filing fee up here was $625 - my dad paid that. Even he, the most honest guy in the world, didn't see a way out for me.

We all blame the ex's, but the divorce laws are written such that each party is supposed to be a responsible adult and it just ain't so.

[lurker]

You are right Miss Muffy. That door does swing both ways. My prior post should have been gender neutral.

[K C Muffin]

No problem, doGgy. I went for quite a while telling everybody how men were jerks. Met one that wasn't. Well, not totally!!! Married him before he could get away! Now that I've "met" you all, I've decided that not all men were jerks, just some of them and I had a real bad penchant for 'em.

[Lone Gunman]

When my divorce was final and everything was split up I continued to pay my share of the bills but my ex decide she wouldn't pay the ones she agreed to. So they always came after me because I was the stable one, I know it's scary to think I was the stable one, I would get garneshments, and constant phone calls from the creditors. I would have to pay them and then sue her to get my money back. Her credit was great mine was ruined. It took me years to get my good credit back and I value it very much.

[blondemoments]

Originally Posted by K C Muffin

No problem, doGgy. I went for quite a while telling everybody how men were jerks. Met one that wasn't. Well, not totally!!! Married him before he could get away! Now that I've "met" you all, I've decided that not all men were jerks, just some of them and I had a real bad penchant for 'em.

[blondemoments]

Originally Posted by Lone Gunman

When my divorce was final and everything was split up I continued to pay my share of the bills but my ex decide she wouldn't pay the ones she agreed to. So they always came after me because I was the stable one, I know it's scary to think I was the stable one, I would get garneshments, and constant phone calls from the creditors. I would have to pay them and then sue her to get my money back. Her credit was great mine was ruined. It took me years to get my good credit back and I value it very much.

Sometimes you remind me so much of my husband....lol

Are you sure your not him and hiding from me on here...j/k