Husband Allegedly Lit Wife on Fire After Order of Protection Dismissed

[hoarsewhisperer]

this pissed me off

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=1269245

Husband Allegedly Lit Wife on Fire After Order of Protection DismissedYvette Cade Told Judge She Wanted Immediate Divorce
A judge lifted a protection order against Yvette Cade's husband three weeks before he allegedly lit her on fire. (ABC NEWS)

Nov. 1, 2005 — Yvette Cade thought she was doing the right thing by obtaining an order of protection against her allegedly abusive husband.

But Prince George's District Court Judge Richard A. Palumbo dismissed the order during a Sept. 19 hearing, and now Cade is in critical condition, severely burned over half her body after her 33-year-old husband, Roger Hargrave, allegedly went to her office, doused her with gasoline and set her on fire.



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Her family says Palumbo could have prevented the Oct. 10 attack.

"His part was allowing this to take place because he could have prevented it and he did not," said Michael Haynesworth, Cade's cousin.

According to court audio tapes, Cade, 31, pleaded with Palumbo to extend the order of protection against her husband. Under such orders, a subject is forbidden to contact the person who sought the order. Violations can result in contempt charges, arrest, fines or jail time.

"He's violating the peace order, he's contacting my family," Cade says on the tapes. "I want an immediate absolute divorce."

Palumbo responds: "I'd like to be 6'5", but that's not what we do here. You have to go to divorce court for that."

When Cade tells the judge her husband is trying to force her into marriage counseling, Palumbo responds, "Maybe not a bad idea if you want to save the marriage."

"I don't want to because … ," Cade says on the tape before she is interrupted.

"Well then you're in the wrong place," Palumbo says. "Get a lawyer and go to divorce court."

Palumbo would not comment on the case to ABC News, but through a lawyer he said he did not intend to dismiss the order of protection, claiming it was a clerical error. He did not apologize, but Palumbo said he has the utmost sympathy for Cade.

Chief Administrative Judge Thurman H. Rhodes has said he disagrees with Palumbo's claim of a mistake. He told The Washington Post he believes Palumbo clearly dismissed the protective order during the September hearing.

Cade's family said she may need more than 40 surgeries in the upcoming months. Her husband is charged with attempted murder and is being held without bond.

[Highwayman]

Sadly, that piece of paper is worthless if someone really wants to kill their spouse.

[Lone Gunman]

Originally Posted by Highwayman

Sadly, that piece of paper is worthless if someone really wants to kill their spouse.

I agree Highway it's not worth the paper it's written on. Also many times the person who gets the TRO calls the other person and invites them over. Which makes one wonder why they got it in the first place.

[TexKan]

I agree - If they wanna get you they will - the only thing that will protect you at that point is a loaded chamber with a hollow point. Sad event that happened. I had heard something about it but not the whole story. Just so sad.

[Highwayman]

Probably the most ridiculous case that I’ve hear was a woman that went to live with her mother and got a restraining order claiming her husband might be violent and had several guns. The cops confiscated one of his guns but not all. Then the cops confiscated all of her guns. She was a licensed firearms dealer so this was not only her personal weapons but her inventory as well. Her and her mother were shot and killed by the husband.

[TexKan]

Yeah - there are so many sad events when it comes to matters of the heart. Had an acquaintance that her hubby shot her mom, 2 girls, then himself. Only mom survived and the acquaintance. It was a horrible thing.

[lurker]

I saw a T-shirt that said: "No Restraining Order Can Stop My Love."

That being said, RO are worthless. Safe Houses are the best we got at this time. Donate if you can.

[Highwayman]

Originally Posted by TexKan

Had an acquaintance that her hubby shot her mom, 2 girls, then himself.

He started in the wrong order. should have started with himself.

[K C Muffin]

Hopefully, there are no children involved. And you guys are right - a TRO does nothing - even a permanent RO does nothing. It's simply an entry in the court to make it easier to prosecute if something goes wrong....as in this case. The police still have to show up. And in the time it takes them to show up, something awful usually happens.

Sometimes, abused people don't feel safe anywhere, but feel safer at work because they feel that there's some degree of separation and more giants to slay before they can be attacked. It's just sad these things still happen. Hopefully everything will work out for her, but it'll be a long row to hoe.

[TexKan]

LOL Lurker - I think I dated that guy....ROTFLMAO This is horrible but ya know what we women do is just so stupid. Course med get hammered to - seems they get run over alot. I certainly hope the woman gets through all of this and I hope the guy spends the rest of his life bending over for the soap in the pen. I think that would be a fair exchange.